abused · Mental and emotional health · PAIN · Prince

Can You Tell Me Why Doves Cry?

I am deeply saddened by the sudden death of our beloved singer, artist, Prince. The world will never experience the musical genius of such a talented individual again in this lifetime. The “voice” has been silenced, yet will live on forever in our heart. Even in his extreme shyness, the words he penned on paper united millions of listeners. For a moment we got a glimpse into the private soul of a man named Prince Rogers Nelson…a prince in his own right.

Regretfully, I never got the chance to attend one of his concerts, although he toured my city and neighboring cities many times. Of course, we never got to know him personally, but his music made us feel close to him. Many of the songs were written from a place of pain; a pain most of us could relate to. How could such a beautiful life yield so much pain?

I can remember the first time I heard the song “When Doves Cry” the lyrics made you stop for moment (Prince, The Revolution 1984). When Prince imitated the sounds of doves crying, it took you to that place. The musical, yet heart wrenching sound of doves crying produced an unexplainable mixture of raw emotions. Is this true? The sounds coming from a bird whose existence is symbolic of peace and tranquility…could those harmonious sounds be the sound of crying? Can a dove really experience pain? What would cause such a beautiful animal to echo such sounds of mourning in the light of the dawning of a new day? I wonder!

Yes, we have all experienced weeping and sobbing at some point in life. Some type of event that triggered an eruption of tears. The sound of the doves crying created our own personal image of grief and sorrow. When Prince released the video, the reality hit home for many of his followers. The man we admired struggled with the unseen scars of domestic violence.

Domestic violence occurs way to often in homes all across America. Children witness countless episodes of fighting, aggression, hostility, and cruelty between the people they love the most…parents. Instances of uncontrolled rage in the eyes of a child leaves the child feeling alienated. The child believes that no one in the world could possibly understand what goes on behind closed doors in my home. The young person concludes within his/her heart that they are the only one experiencing this battle…maybe even be the cause of it. So sad!

Just like the lyrics in the song, they feel all alone in a cold, cold world. What could be the cause of such violent behavior? These people claim to love one another. Do the parents ever stop to consider the perception of the child caught in the middle of this deadly triangle of arguing, bickering, and constant fighting? Is it possible, that it correlates with the sound of doves crying? No child likes to see a parent hurt or crying. A parent’s pain becomes a child’s pain. Many years ago, parents would not dare argue in front of the children. Today, children are forced to deal with adult issues in a child-like way.

Children forced into adulthood too soon, become adults with unresolved emotional, as well as, spiritual issues. These matters stunt, cripple, and impede relational maturity. Thus, a vicious cycle of dysfunctional interactions are created. Exploitation of our young people must stop, so that the healing process can begin.  ( I have observed this personally)

Adults and parents alike, I plead with you to allow your children to be children. As a parent, I have made my share of mistakes. Children are a blessing from the Lord. They were created to be protected, loved, and nurtured. God did not bless us with the fruit of our womb for us to taint their minds with adult issues in which they were not meant to handle.

Stop the violence! Stop the aggression! Let’s find a new way…a better way to communicate and resolve issues in a healthy manner. My friends attend seminars and/or workshops. Understand this; there is no shame in asking for help. Seek out a counselor. After adult issues are resolved, then our young people can start the recovery process. Hiding the situation is not an option. We need to handle this for our children’s sake…for the sake of future generations. For Christ’s sake, our children deserve a chance. They deserve a better future! We can do this! We can turn it around!!   Amen!Mourning_Dove_b13-32-033_l_1[1]

Written by Laura Alexander


When Doves Cry by Prince, The Revolution  1984

Chorus Lyrics: 

How can you just leave me standing?

Alone in a world that’s so cold? (So cold)

Maybe I’m just too demanding

Maybe I’m just like my father, too bold

Maybe you’re just like my mother

She’s never satisfied (She’s never satisfied)

Why do we scream at each other

This is what it sounds like

When doves cry



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